Cutting the Cords that Bind Us

Recently, there's been an increase in the number of folks that I find myself talking to about cutting energetic and emotional cords that are connected to them (and sometimes sucking the life out of them) from other people, past relationships (often unhealthy relationships), and even vows (like vows of silence or poverty) taken in past lives.

Sometimes, I forget that not everyone is as familiar with some of the newer energy techniques (including cutting cords) that we now use routinely. The first time the concept is introduced, it's not unusual  for there to be a lot of questions or misunderstandings. For example, one friend was afraid she wouldn't be able to check in on another friend intuitively if these cords were cut from their past relationship.

Cutting these cords of energy and emotion will NOT prevent you from intuitively checking in on someone. And in fact, removing these cords of attachment can provide you with a clearer, more objective view of what is actually going on with that person when you do check on them intuitively.

These cords are not a normal or natural part of your energy field. In fact, it's better to think of them as "invaders" of your space, and even possibly "energy vampire" cords. When these cords are formed, especially during a "lover" relationship, they usually attach near the heart and sacral chakras. This is especially true of intense relationships and karmic relationships, even after the karma has been balanced.

What happens is the other person has "plugged in" to you, most often subconsciously, and they've been literally sucking away some of your energy body .... Feeding on you, so to speak. And yes, it can go the other way around as well, with you attaching to them and feeding on them as well as sharing your energy with them.

When these energy cords exist between lives it is often because we've been passionate about something in the time period when the vows making the cords were made. For example, I've had several past lives as nuns and healers and artisans. The vows of silence have been especially difficult for me to break in this life, and it's something I've had to work on so that I could "speak my truth" this time (a fifth / throat chakra issue). Granted, there were other things at work there as well (too many times being burned, beaten, or killed for speaking my truth in past lives) and those other related issues had to be dealt with in both hypnosis sessions and bioenergy healing sessions.  But the point is, it can be done and cutting those cords is a necessary part of it.

How To Cut These Cords
You can cut these cords yourself during a meditation with the Angels (they will cut them at both ends with love and heal and seal your energy body afterward) OR you can have a guided imagery or healing session where someone else cuts these cords (often with assistance of the Angels) and heals and seals your energy field.

When I cut these cords, I do it with the intention that they are cut in this time and all times, in this time and space, and all time and space, now and forever. Afterwards I usually allow time for absorbing healing energies to replace any "missing" feelings for the recipient.

Leaving the cords in place is not really a good option; however, you have to want to severe these ties. Think of it this way:  these cords can and often do weaken your energy field where they've attached. The weakened part of your energy system, for example the heart chakra, could later manifest physically as some sort of heart problem if the energy imbalance is not corrected. Correcting the weakened energy field is preventative medicine of the first degree. :)

Past lives... and graveyards as a "safe, happy place"

A favorite topic when someone finds out you're a hypnotist is past lives. Are they real? Where do they come from? Does that mean reincarnation is real?

When I was first starting out, I would avoid that controversial issue by simply saying something like "I don't know where they come from or whether they are real.  All I know is that if I work with them to resolve whatever issue they've presented, it also takes care of that issue or problem in this life. The therapy around the past lives works, and that's all I care about for my client."

And that is true. One doesn't have to believe in past lives to experience them in hypnosis. (See the separate page on past lives that talks about young souls.)  And at the same time, a belief in past (or future) lives doesn't have to conflict with your spiritual or religious beliefs.

For the subconscious mind, all time is NOW.  There is no past and no future.  Everything happens NOW. So when you're experiencing something in hypnosis, you are indeed experiencing it the same as you would at that time, whenever that time exists whether that is in the "past" or "future" to your current perspective. Linear time does not exist in the subconscious mind. (There are techniques to minimize the emotional impact of revisiting a traumatic incident so that you do not have to relive it quite as intensely as the first time around.)

This correlates with some current theories on time as a circular river, where if we could pop our heads up above the waterline, we'd see all of time existing at the same time.   Others tell us that Time and Space is the 4th dimension for our physical 3-D existence.

I don't know whether it is or not. All I know is that often, when the subconscious sees its chance to work on something, it takes it. This happened with my very first paying client many years ago. He came in for a specific problem he wanted to work on; however, his subconscious mind had a different problem in mind. I was guiding him to a "safe and happy place" to do this work----but his subconscious led us to a graveyard! (Of course, I'm thinking OMG! Now what do I do????, but never let him know that.)  Most people go to  a mountain meadow or beach or something.

Graveyard as a "safe and happy place?"  So, I'm cool. I've been taught well and I've been taught to "deal with what emerges" in hypnosis, whatever that may be. So I ask him to find a path in the graveyard and start following it.... That worked until he ran into a WALL and then proceeded to tell me that his Heart Was Buried inside the walled off portion of this graveyard.

Now he was getting agitated, as well as me.  This wasn't what he bargained for, and it wasn't what I bargained for either!  So we did a little work around his heart being buried in here, then we emerged. I gave him some paper and pencil and asked him to draw what he saw. He did. And as he did, we talked a bit more.  It seems that many years before he was an artist, but the "day job" had been keeping him from expressing his creativity, which had been coming out in some other ways --- the original problem he had consulted me about. His daughter had give him a set of drawing pencils for Christmas the year before, but he had not been using them.

Before I sent him on his way, I suggested that he spend some time each week allowing his creativity and artistic talents to express themselves and that it would probably help.  Needless to say, it wasn't what he had expected for his first hypnosis session (me either!) and he didn't return as a client. I only hope that he followed the suggestion to express his artistic drives in a healthier way.

And that was my first lesson on how when the subconscious sees an opportunity (especially if it thinks it won't get another one), it will take it.

until next time... relax, breathe deeply, and exercise those creative impulses in healthy ways. :)
---melodie